2018, My Journey

Where Does Superman Go For Help?

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When you see me at my worst, rather than exploit my weakness or judge me, could you look past the ugly, the addiction, the pain, the failure, the hurt, the weakness, and just hand me my cape?

Often times it’s emotional not physical stamina that hinders our forward progress. Keeping a positive attitude 24/7 is arduous. Maintaining the upbeateverything is greatI can do it, mindset can be exhausting. (Can I get a witness?) There are times when, regardless of how hard you try to remain strong, you find yourself weak.

Where does Superman go to take off his cape?

Holding up a persona is physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritual exhausting. It’s the leading cause of dreams going into cardiac arrest — Trying to be for everyone else who you think they want you to be.

A Soapbox Moment:

Allow me to step up on my soapbox for a moment. Can someone just please tell me I’m ok, just like I am? That for this moment, I don’t have to be strong? That for this moment, it’s ok to not know what the hell I’m doing? That for this moment it’s ok to be scared?

This isn’t who I am, I know that; it’s just what I’m going through. I truly know deep down inside this won’t last long. I don’t need your pity, your ridicule, or your judgement; I just need your support.

When you see me at my worst, rather than exploit my weakness or judge me, could you look past the ugly, the addiction, the pain, the failure, the hurt, the weakness, and just hand me my cape?

Just lay my cape close to me as a reminder of who I am. There’s still enough of ME alive in me that if I can just get close to who I know I am, I will rise again!

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Give yourself permission to be weak

When you find yourself physically fit but emotionally weak, take a breakDon’t force it, flow with it. If you force your way through physical pain you may win sometimes, but more often you cause even more damage resulting in longer setbacks and recovery times.

When you’re feeling down don’t try and hold it up. Give yourself permission to not give a @!$%, to not try, to not want to. Give yourself a chance to just be who you are at the moment — judgement free. Remember, what we resist persists.

Don’t force it, flow with it

During the storm you don’t fight the wind; you align yourself with it and allow it to carry you in the direction of your destination. Even if it seems like you’re just getting tossed to and fro, don’t lose hope, after the storm clears you will land on the beach, AND, on your feet — you always do!

Chances are, “one more try,” when we’re emotionally exhausted, isn’t going to help; it’s going to make things worse.

Give yourself permission to be who you are at this moment. Judgement free. Remember, what we resist persists.

If you force yourself to push too much through emotional pain, you can also cause more damage. Self esteem is already at an all-time low during those times we lack emotional stamina. To keep trying and failing, when you just can’t seem to get your heart or head in the game that day, can damage your self worth even more.

The more damage done to our soul during times of trying when we should just be content with simply curling up in a ball and crying, means the more time and effort we will spend “nursing our emotional wounds,” and getting back on our feet rather than being on our feet and making forward progress toward our goals.

To keep trying and failing, when you just can’t seem to get your heart or head in the game that day, can damage your self worth even more.

There’s no shame in taking off your cape

If you find yourself lacking in emotional stamina, step back and go at it again a time or two, but if you’re not getting the breakthrough you need, take time completely away to refresh.

Give yourself permission to take off your cape, and just rest in your weakness. There’s no shame in taking off your cape. Even the strongest are weak at times. It’s embracing our weakness that truly makes us strong.

Your strength will return; it always does. Your drive and passion will emerge once again; it always does.

Even the strongest are weak at times. It’s embracing our weakness that truly makes us strong.

Strength actually knows when it’s time to return. Rest in your weakness and your “cape” will actually put itself back on when it’s time. And when it does, baby, it’s time for you to rise again.

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Are you feeling weak?

Embrace it. Rest in it. Weakness is restoring your strength. Give yourself permission to be exactly where you are — judgement free.

Strength hasn’t forgotten you. Destiny has not passed you by. Allow weakness to run it’s course. This too shall pass.

With every bit of strength you can muster, turn and capture a glimpse; your cape is right next to you. Don’t worry, it doesn’t fit anyone but you. Your superpower is irrevocable. Rest. Strength knows when it’s time to return.

And when it returns, go save the world!

2018, Encouragement, My Journey

To Swing And Miss Is Still Progress

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To swing and to miss is progress.

When it seems like you’re not making progress, remember that every effort you put forth, even the effort to continue putting forth effort, is progress.

The effort to believe is progress.
The effort to try is progress.
The effort to fail is progress.
The effort to try again is progress.

Keep swinging. Even if you miss, the effort you are putting forth to swing is progress.

2017, My Journey, self improvement, Self-Help

Wednesday’s Word: Making Someone Else Out To Be Wrong Doesn’t Make You Right.

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Making someone else out to be wrong doesn’t make you right. Someone else doesn’t have to be wrong for you to be right. Be right or wrong all by yourself.

Reaching our ultimate self includes taking full and complete responsibility for our lives. Immaturity blames, finds reasons, other than him or herself, for why life isn’t working out. Be right or wrong all by yourself. Let the buck stop with you!

There’s an old hymn that says, “just as I am without one plea.” A plea is a request made in an urgent emotional manner. Resist the urge to make what happens to you someone else’s fault.

Take full and complete responsibility for your life. Making someone else out to be wrong doesn’t make you right.

~ Jeff Crume

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