My Journey

Why Authenticity Is Stopping You From Achieving Your Dreams

Have you ever shared something with someone, I mean from the depths of your soul, and as soon as it came out of your mouth you started beating yourself up for sharing?

I met with a close friend and colleague this morning. I refer to her as “Miss Dubai” because of the elegance and brilliance she expresses in the world.

We had one of those “heart-to-heart” talks over coffee. You know the kind where you’re just real. No fake. No pretense. If it sucks right now you say it sucks!

(There are few in life who you can have those kinds of conversations with and still hold your head high when you’re through. That’s why I cherish our relationship.)

I’ve been reflecting on our conversation since this morning and haven’t been able to shake the feeling that once again I bit the bait of “expressing how I really feel.”

There are times in your journey when you shouldn’t share how you feel, but rather talk about how you want to feel. You shouldn’t always share what you don’t have, but rather express what you want to have.

If like begets like, which I believe it does, then even our “honest moments of reflection” can be doing unseen damage.

I quickly shot the following text to “Miss Dubai.” Correct me if I’m wrong, but I think it was meant for more that just the two of us.

Even our most honest moments of reflection can be doing unseen damage.

Text Message to Miss Dubai

“Ok Ms. Dubai – that was the last conversation I’m having with you about who I’m not and what I don’t have. “Authenticity” can be a evil elixir at times.

I’m not broke. I’m not a slave to a job. I’m not stuck. I’m not afraid. – of ANYTHING! I celebrate the clients I have, the speaking opportunities I have, the consulting arrangements I have.

All of these pieces make up my financial snapshot at the moment. It’s not who I am, it simply is where I am at the moment. Just because where I am at the moment is not where I ultimately want to be, doesn’t mean I’m not who I need to be – at this moment.

Organic Growth

I am organically growing into the person I’ve been created to be. My pain and struggle – even the pain and struggle that today delivers – has made me, is making me, and will always continue to make me who I am born to be.

Do I need to do more?

More is relative. You don’t force a flower to bloom; you give it space and allow it to do what comes naturally.

What may “appear” to be “messy” to the outside at the moment, or even to the inside at times, is actually a precursor to my glory.

I am exactly who I need to be, exactly where I need to be, doing exactly what I need to be doing at exactly this stage in my life!!

But don’t blink baby, because I’m about to change. 😉

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Keep being you. There’s no one better!!

2018, Encouragement, Forward Thinking, Happiness, Higher Thinking, My Journey

Abundance Is Your Birthright

If deep down inside, you are secretly afraid of the person you might become when you finally become the person you’ve always dreamed of being, you will never become that person.

“I’ll be more of me when I’m finally me.”

There’s a misnomer floating around that somehow when you finally get to be the person you’ve always dreamed of being, that somehow you’ll be less of who you really want to be:

Less loving, less compassionate, less driven, less considerate…Like when we have less, we’re somehow more. And when we have more, we’re somehow less.

It’s like that saying, “When you finally get there, don’t forget where you came from.” Like you’re going to turn into this self-righteous arrogant jerk that doesn’t give a $!*# about anyone but themselves. Like finally possessing the ultimate desire of your heart is going to somehow corrupt you.

If deep down inside, you are secretly afraid of the person you might become when you finally become the person you’ve always dreamed of being, you will never become that person.

Turn that negative ideology around. Start telling yourself the better you get, the more loving you are. The more money you make, the more people you help. The more you become, the more positive change you bring to your world.

Forgetting where you came from is good for you.

Don’t be bound by some obligatory ideology that says you owe something to someone or some thing; that somehow your honor of something or some past place in your life makes you a better person now.

Is being less than you were created to be somehow mean you’re a better human being?

No! It just means you’re less than what you were created to be. It also means your afraid of who you think you might become if you do ever “forget where you came from.”

You can never become something you’re afraid of becoming.

I don’t know about you, but I’m willing to risk it all to find out. I’m willing to bet on the come that my best-self, my ultimate-self, is far better of a human being than I could ever ask imagine or think.

You can never become something you’re afraid of becoming.

I’m willing to risk everything to believe that my highest self is the best expression of who I was created to be; that he or she will do a million times more good in the world than the one who is afraid of becoming their true self, in fear of who they might become.

If you’re afraid of who you might become you don’t know who you’ve been created to be.

Risk it all. Throw in the towel. Walk away from everything you think you know to be true, to discover Truth. For it’s only Truth that sets you free.

I’ll be more of me when I’m finally the me I’ve always dreamed of being. How about you?

2018, Life, Life Lessons, My Journey, self discovery

How To Find Creation out of Chaos

chaos

What did you learn from what you just went through? Or did you just let it beat the hell out of you for nothing?

There’s creation on the other side of all chaos. You just have to look close enough to find it.

We all experience chaos.

Explosions. Blow-ups. Eruptions.

Periods in our lives where everything seems to suddenly go to *%#!

The flesh just sees the chaos; the debris, while Wisdom sees the creation beyond the chaos.

Pride feels the pain, while the soul “knows very well.”

What did what you just went through show you?

What did you learn from what you just went through? Or did you just let it beat the hell out of you for nothing?

If you look close enough every “explosion” causes expansion.

Explosion make room in our lives for “more.” And that “more” is what we all need to tap into the grow.

So the next time you experience chaos in your lifea knock-down-drag-out-fight with your spouse, a blow up with your boss, or an ego battle with the driver on the freeway that leaves you in an exhilarated panic…

Pause & Reflect

Look past the emotion and pain. Sift through the chaos; the fragmented pieces, for the lesson.

  1. Apply it
  2. Grow from it
  3. Rinse and repeat

There’s creation on the other side of all chaos. You just have to look close enough to find it.