Have you ever shared something with someone, I mean from the depths of your soul, and as soon as it came out of your mouth you started beating yourself up for sharing?
I met with a close friend and colleague this morning. I refer to her as “Miss Dubai” because of the elegance and brilliance she expresses in the world.
We had one of those “heart-to-heart” talks over coffee. You know the kind where you’re just real. No fake. No pretense. If it sucks right now you say it sucks!
(There are few in life who you can have those kinds of conversations with and still hold your head high when you’re through. That’s why I cherish our relationship.)
I’ve been reflecting on our conversation since this morning and haven’t been able to shake the feeling that once again I bit the bait of “expressing how I really feel.”
There are times in your journey when you shouldn’t share how you feel, but rather talk about how you want to feel. You shouldn’t always share what you don’t have, but rather express what you want to have.
If like begets like, which I believe it does, then even our “honest moments of reflection” can be doing unseen damage.
I quickly shot the following text to “Miss Dubai.” Correct me if I’m wrong, but I think it was meant for more that just the two of us.
Even our most honest moments of reflection can be doing unseen damage.
Text Message to Miss Dubai
“Ok Ms. Dubai – that was the last conversation I’m having with you about who I’m not and what I don’t have. “Authenticity” can be a evil elixir at times.
I’m not broke. I’m not a slave to a job. I’m not stuck. I’m not afraid. – of ANYTHING! I celebrate the clients I have, the speaking opportunities I have, the consulting arrangements I have.
All of these pieces make up my financial snapshot at the moment. It’s not who I am, it simply is where I am at the moment. Just because where I am at the moment is not where I ultimately want to be, doesn’t mean I’m not who I need to be – at this moment.
I am organically growing into the person I’ve been created to be. My pain and struggle – even the pain and struggle that today delivers – has made me, is making me, and will always continue to make me who I am born to be.
Do I need to do more?
More is relative. You don’t force a flower to bloom; you give it space and allow it to do what comes naturally.
What may “appear” to be “messy” to the outside at the moment, or even to the inside at times, is actually a precursor to my glory.
I am exactly who I need to be, exactly where I need to be, doing exactly what I need to be doing at exactly this stage in my life!!
But don’t blink baby, because I’m about to change. 😉
Keep being you. There’s no one better!!