2017, Driving, Life Lessons, My Journey

What Happens When You Give A “*#%>!”

angry.driver.thinkstock.2

That little extra “*#%>!” you give the person you blow by on the road for blowing by you, is killing you softly.

Each time you gesture out of anger, or negatively engage with another person, even silently, you are destroying a little more of the life within you. You give your power away every time you let someone get under your skin.

Find your strength within today to let those people go by. Bless those who curse you. Love those who spite you. Eventually they will disappear from your radar and even the busiest road will seem like you have it all to yourself.

Consider the follow road rage statistics the next time you feel like giving the other person that little extra “*#%>!”

Live longer. Be Kinder. Don’t Let Stuff Bother You.


Road Rage Statistics

The following statistics compiled from the NHTSA and the Auto Vantage auto club show that aggressive driving and road rage are causing serious problems on our roads.

  • 66% of traffic fatalities are caused by aggressive driving.
  • 37% of aggressive driving incidents involve a firearm.
  • Males under the age of 19 are the most likely to exhibit road rage.
  • Half of drivers who are on the receiving end of an aggressive behavior, such as horn honking, a rude gesture, or tailgating admit to responding with aggressive behavior themselves.
  • Over a seven year period, 218 murders and 12,610 injuries were attributed to road rage.

One scary statistic worth noting is:

  • 2% of drivers admit to trying to run an aggressor off the road!
2017, My Journey, self improvement

How To Manage Feeling Less Than

got-the-bllues

Tuesday’s Tip: How To Manage Feeling Less Than.

First, understand you are not alone. Even the most positive people have negative moments.

Second, realize “less than” is a part of “more than.” Just because you have a quarter tank of gas doesn’t mean your car is faulty.

Thirdly, “less than” is never an identity issue. Never take negative thoughts personally – they are just passing through.

Often time those “less than” feelings are indications it’s time to “refuel.” The best refueling is to completely shut down.

Take a day off of work. Turn off the electronics. Go to your favorite happy place (even if that’s beneath the sheets) and settle in for the day. No one was designed to be “on” all the time.

Are you feeling a bit “less than?” Stay your course. Steady your soul. Quiet your mind. You’re not broken, it’s just time to refuel.

Destiny, Happiness, Happy Life, Life, Peace, Success, Wellness

How To Be Happy Again

happy-days-are-here-again

I’ve been a lot of things in my life, but being unhappy is the worst. Unhappiness can be the result of something as severe as the sudden loss of a loved one, or as simple as a missed deadline at the office. Unhappiness is, in short, an emotional reaction to a missed expectation. What you wanted to happen didn’t, or what you didn’t want to happen did.

If you are experiencing unhappiness, here are three keys to help you get happy again.

1.  Give Yourself Permission to be Unhappy.

Unhappiness is something you experience, not something you become. When unhappiness comes on you, regardless of the cause, allow it to run it’s course. Acknowledge that you are unhappy, express your thoughts and feelings as to why you feel the way you do, even sulk in it a bit if it helps, but then let it go. Don’t always be quick to change what is; allow it to run it’s course. Remember, “this too shall pass.”

2.  Unhappiness is Your Experience, Not Your Identity.

Whatever follows your “I am,” you are. Unhappiness, in it’s simplest form, is an emotional response to a missed expectation. It feels sometimes like it’s never going to end, but it will, and it does. Keep a healthy distance between what you are experiencing and who you truly are. During moments of unhappiness, remind yourself that this is not who you are; this is just what you are going through. Remember, this too shall pass. Change your perspective. Don’t take it personal. Unhappiness happens to everyone.

3.  Let It Go

Remember, what you hold on to holds on to you. Unhappiness can develop into depression, and worse, a pathology, if you are not careful. What was designed to be a momentary experience to one of life’s many unexpected moments, can become a way of life. When unhappiness becomes a way of life, it can altar the course of your identity, and ultimately your destiny. You were not designed to be unhappy. Longterm unhappiness is a choice.

Give negative emotions a time frame. When you have allowed yourself ample opportunity to process the negative emotions, cut them off. Make a choice to be done feeling unhappy and start feeling happy again. Choosing is the easiest hardest thing you have to do in life. Remember, you can’t be happy and sad at the same time.

One Final Note: Ask For Help

Ask for help. We were never designed to carry the load of life all by ourselves. Yet, millions, probably more, live the majority of their lives in their private closets trying to deal with life’s deepest, darkest emotions. Don’t be afraid, or too proud to reach out for help. If the truth were known, the one you ask for help will probably be glad you did, because they were needing someone to talk to too.