2018, Life Lessons, My Journey, Self-Help

From Day Job To Destiny

From day job to destiny; it’s a journey, and you’ve got to be smart about how to get there.

You’re real job in life is to figure out what you’re called to do. And you use a “job” to survive until you can figure out what your. calling is. Because a job is necessary to survive, and you live in a world where you need to survive.

Do what makes you feel good; what feeds your soul. Do what you would do for free. That’s key to identifying your calling.

When you do identify your calling, don’t quit your day job right away. Change your mindset about your job. Look at your job as a financial partner; an investor who’s helping you achieve your dreams.

Be prompt. Do a great job on your job, just as if your job was a client of yours, but at night when you lay your head on your pillow, remind yourself that your allegiance is to your calling.

When it’s time, the door to your calling will open and allow you to step into your destiny. Leaping is an option, but the % of casualty is much higher than stepping into it.

From day job to destiny; it’s a journey, and you’ve got to be smart about how to get there.

2018, My Journey

Where Does Superman Go For Help?

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When you see me at my worst, rather than exploit my weakness or judge me, could you look past the ugly, the addiction, the pain, the failure, the hurt, the weakness, and just hand me my cape?

Often times it’s emotional not physical stamina that hinders our forward progress. Keeping a positive attitude 24/7 is arduous. Maintaining the upbeateverything is greatI can do it, mindset can be exhausting. (Can I get a witness?) There are times when, regardless of how hard you try to remain strong, you find yourself weak.

Where does Superman go to take off his cape?

Holding up a persona is physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritual exhausting. It’s the leading cause of dreams going into cardiac arrest — Trying to be for everyone else who you think they want you to be.

A Soapbox Moment:

Allow me to step up on my soapbox for a moment. Can someone just please tell me I’m ok, just like I am? That for this moment, I don’t have to be strong? That for this moment, it’s ok to not know what the hell I’m doing? That for this moment it’s ok to be scared?

This isn’t who I am, I know that; it’s just what I’m going through. I truly know deep down inside this won’t last long. I don’t need your pity, your ridicule, or your judgement; I just need your support.

When you see me at my worst, rather than exploit my weakness or judge me, could you look past the ugly, the addiction, the pain, the failure, the hurt, the weakness, and just hand me my cape?

Just lay my cape close to me as a reminder of who I am. There’s still enough of ME alive in me that if I can just get close to who I know I am, I will rise again!

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Give yourself permission to be weak

When you find yourself physically fit but emotionally weak, take a breakDon’t force it, flow with it. If you force your way through physical pain you may win sometimes, but more often you cause even more damage resulting in longer setbacks and recovery times.

When you’re feeling down don’t try and hold it up. Give yourself permission to not give a @!$%, to not try, to not want to. Give yourself a chance to just be who you are at the moment — judgement free. Remember, what we resist persists.

Don’t force it, flow with it

During the storm you don’t fight the wind; you align yourself with it and allow it to carry you in the direction of your destination. Even if it seems like you’re just getting tossed to and fro, don’t lose hope, after the storm clears you will land on the beach, AND, on your feet — you always do!

Chances are, “one more try,” when we’re emotionally exhausted, isn’t going to help; it’s going to make things worse.

Give yourself permission to be who you are at this moment. Judgement free. Remember, what we resist persists.

If you force yourself to push too much through emotional pain, you can also cause more damage. Self esteem is already at an all-time low during those times we lack emotional stamina. To keep trying and failing, when you just can’t seem to get your heart or head in the game that day, can damage your self worth even more.

The more damage done to our soul during times of trying when we should just be content with simply curling up in a ball and crying, means the more time and effort we will spend “nursing our emotional wounds,” and getting back on our feet rather than being on our feet and making forward progress toward our goals.

To keep trying and failing, when you just can’t seem to get your heart or head in the game that day, can damage your self worth even more.

There’s no shame in taking off your cape

If you find yourself lacking in emotional stamina, step back and go at it again a time or two, but if you’re not getting the breakthrough you need, take time completely away to refresh.

Give yourself permission to take off your cape, and just rest in your weakness. There’s no shame in taking off your cape. Even the strongest are weak at times. It’s embracing our weakness that truly makes us strong.

Your strength will return; it always does. Your drive and passion will emerge once again; it always does.

Even the strongest are weak at times. It’s embracing our weakness that truly makes us strong.

Strength actually knows when it’s time to return. Rest in your weakness and your “cape” will actually put itself back on when it’s time. And when it does, baby, it’s time for you to rise again.

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Are you feeling weak?

Embrace it. Rest in it. Weakness is restoring your strength. Give yourself permission to be exactly where you are — judgement free.

Strength hasn’t forgotten you. Destiny has not passed you by. Allow weakness to run it’s course. This too shall pass.

With every bit of strength you can muster, turn and capture a glimpse; your cape is right next to you. Don’t worry, it doesn’t fit anyone but you. Your superpower is irrevocable. Rest. Strength knows when it’s time to return.

And when it returns, go save the world!

2018, Inspiration, Life Lessons, My Journey

Don’t Be Ashamed Of Your Struggle, It’s Taking You Somewhere

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Don’t Be Ashamed Of Your Struggle

Everyone struggles. It doesn’t matter who you are or what your current status is in life, everyone struggles with something. Struggle is not an indication of worth or ability; it’s a sign of active engagement toward a worthwhile cause.

Struggle comes standard issue with life. No one gets out of life alive, and no one accomplishes their destiny or achieves their dream without struggle.

Struggle isn’t a reflection of what you don’t have; it’s a reflection of your determination to get what’s yours at all cost. Struggle is the evidence that you’re trying.

To be ashamed of your struggle is to self sabotage your own success. Shame is a self imposed. Stop it. Don’t allow societal pressure to dictate your self worth. Don’t allow struggle to try and convince you you’re not capable, or it will never happen for you.

Look yourself in the mirror and ask yourself

1. Am I giving it my all?
2. Is this the best I can do?

If the answer is “YES,” welcome to the club. You made it. Entrance fee paid! Keep Pushing you’re almost there!

If your answer is “NO,” stop blaming everyone else. Don’t play the victim; it’s not becoming. Fess up to laziness, lack of discipline, wrong thinking, overeating, whining, complaining; whatever your case may be. Correct it. Rise above it. And get on with it!

Correct it. Rise above it. And get on with it!

Don’t spend one more second in what you don’t want. Don’t waste anymore energy on justifying ‘what,’ or ‘why,’ just implement the necessary change and move on!

Don’t be ashamed of your struggle. To struggle is to be human. But make sure you do something with yours. Don’t struggle just to struggle; just for the story. Turn your struggle into success, into an accomplishment that can inspire others.

Make something happen out this mess you find yourself in. It’s the only way to shut your critic(s) up. It’s the only way to finally prove to yourself “I got this!”