2019, Personal Growth

Stop Making Everything Out to Be Such A Big Deal. It’s Sucking the Life Out of You.

Making everything a “Big Deal” sucks the life out of you and causes you to get stuck! It leaves you, and others around you, in a heavy funk. If you want to experience more joy in your life, don’t make everything such a big deal. A simple yes or no will do.

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Trying not to make everything a big deal when everything has always been a big deal is, well, a pretty BIG deal. It’s easy to become addicted to the drama surrounding decision making. Drama is the frenzy created by uncertainty. “What do I do? What will they think? Is this the right decision? What if?”

We spend precious time contemplating what we should do rather than simply making a decision and trusting the outcome. Consider the cost yes, but don’t get lost. Too much contemplation leads to constipation. Making everything a “Big Deal” sucks the life out of you and causes you to get stuck! It leaves you, and others around you, in a heavy funk. If you want to experience more joy in your life, don’t make everything a big deal. A simple yes or no will do.

Sure, spend a moment asking yourself which is the better way to go. Consult a friend or colleague about those “bigger decisions” if necessary, but then simply decide and move on.
Don’t make everything out to be such a big deal. It’s sucking the life out of you. A simple yes or no will do.

2019, Personal Growth

You Need To Know The Difference

There’s a difference between surrendering to it and surrendering it. Knowing the difference could save your life.

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There’s a difference between surrendering to it and surrendering it. Surrendering “to it” means you give “it” power; power to remind you, confine you, to haunt you. And with that power comes permission; permission to lord over you what happened. You can’t blame something for continuing to beat you up when you actually give it power and permission to do so by surrendering to it.

To “surrender it” means you YIELD. Not in submission, not in defeat, but in resolve knowing ‘this too shall pass.’ You let go of the outcome and trust there’s a better way out of this than you can see right now. You don’t resist because you know that what you resist persists. You maintain the mindset of, “Whatever you have to do, do it quickly.”

You do know that do you make it through this, right?

When you surrender, you strip “IT” of power. Whatever “it” is. Surrendering is the highest act of dying to oneself. And it is in that dying process that you actually retain your power over “it” and you position yourself for resurrection. Your greatest setback is a set up for your greatest comeback!

When you surrender, you activate a higher power within you that’s much more capable of delivering you than the part of you that’s trying to fight this off. You take the outcome out of your own hands and TRUST that even the most severe challenges will work in your favor.

Think About It.

Even if you could resolve this in the best way you can see possible, what good does that do you? Just to say “I did it?”

Your true power does not lie within what you can do; you’re true power lies within who you are! Stand still and know! And when you know who you are, you can face any adversity, any set back, any challenge, and surrender with confidence knowing, “Can’t touch this!”

As much as this challenge you’re facing right now is trying to convince you it’s won, it’s victory declaration over you is premature! Don’t you worry! Stand still! What’s coming next – out of the very core of your being – is not of you. It’s you, but it’s not of you, and it SHALL deliver you FAR BEYOND what you could ever ask, imagine, or think!

There’s a difference between “surrendering to it” and “surrendering it.” You need to know the difference. It can save your life. It can set you free!

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Will She Ever Come Back? Will I Ever See Him Again?

Have you ever had a special moment? You know, the kind of magical moment that you couldn’t reproduce even if you tried? I believe it’s at those very moments our true self comes out. Uninhibited. No pretense. Just raw, pure, us.

If you’ve ever felt yourself flow in your authentic self, it’s indescribable. The energy, the love, the genuineness, the authenticity that pours through you; you just don’t want it to ever stop. But then the moment passes and you begin to wonder. “Will she ever come back?” “Will I ever see him again?

Frantically you try conjuring up in your mind a picture, an image, a scenario of anything close to what just happened to try and convince yourself you have what it takes to reproduce the you that just showed up.

It can be scary experiencing our genuine authentic self pass through us, because as soon as that “magic” moment is over, we revert back into our “earthly” self. Our egoic, self-absorbed, pretentious, version starts to panic. “Will she ever come back?” “Will I ever see him again?” And the truth is, no they won’t. She will never come back again. You will never see him again. At least not through “that version of you” that is.

You see, you don’t have anything to do with you! Did you hear me? You have nothing to do with you! You are your truest best self all on your own.

When that “best version of yourself” shows up you have NOTHING to do with it! You didn’t conjure up, rehearse, practice, research, pitch, or make YOU appear. The moment in front of you simply unfolded and “you” showed up in all your glory.

Pay close attention to what brings your best out. Something about that moment, when you felt your truest self shine through, was activated by the moment in front of you. Someone needed you. Your gift involuntarily (key word) flew into action. Do you know why? Because at that very moment you were serving a cause higher than yourself.

Authenticity never goes on sale. Genuineness never needs to be coerced. Your authentic, genuine, best self shows up when you least likely expect it. Because if you are consciously connected, if you are expecting, you’re trying within your own ability to make her appear. And have you ever noticed, she never appears when you try and force her to the front?

Will she come back? Will you ever see him again? You will! But you need to trust that when you need her the most, she’ll be there. Trust that when he needs to come to the forefront to save the day, he’ll be there. Sure keep educating yourself. Absolutely keep preparing for those opportunities. But when you’ve done all to stand, stand therefore and trust your own creative brilliance.

You got this because you ARE this. You don’t force a flower to bloom. You allow it to do what it was created to do. You don’t force your best self to come to the surface. You just allow yourself to be who she/he was originally created to be. You got this because you are this!